The Favor Paradox

It is in the DNA of an entrepreneur to be independent.  To be a “do-it-your-selfer.” To get things done on their own.   We are proud, smart, and self-reliant.  Sometimes to our own detriment.

While processing issues in coaching sessions with CEOs, I can’t tell you how many times the answer to a roadblock is to ask some easily identifiable person for help. When I ask why they haven’t asked, the paraphrased answer is something like, “I don’t know,” or “I feel funny asking,” or “I know I can do it myself.”

Well here’s a fact.  People feel good when they help other people. So do someone a favor and let them feel good. So if you want to make people feel good, swallow your pride, overcome the flaw in your entrepreneurial-DNA and ask for a help.  Make someone else feel good.  Let them do you a favor.  It is OK, for a leader to ask for help.  In fact being able to ask for help is a strength and not weakness.