Intentionality

Intentionality: Living an Intentional Life

Intentionality… are you drifting through life or are you intentionally living a life of  intentionality? Are you mindfully appreciating the moment you’re in or are you driving down the highway of  your life at the exit ramp, thinking, “how in tarnation ( because you talk like someone from a 1960s sitcom) did I get here?

We humans take life for granted. We only need to break a leg to appreciate the gift of mobility, the gift of painlessly walking. Take off the cast and you might appreciate walking, mindful thatwalking is a gift. We walk with intentionality… we notice it, we appreciate it. A few weeks later we forget that it’s a miracle that we are able to bound up a flight of stairs.

I’ve learned these lessons the hard way. I’ve broken my leg and even more difficult, I went through a divorce. As a divorced parent of two boys… one thirteen at the time and the other nine. My fatherhood paradigm was rocked.

Pre-divorce, I was a busy, uber-important, mission-critical, business schmuck, who had kids. I was a business guy first and a dad second. I took my role as a father for granted. I’d work late… “it’s okay, I’ll see them tomorrow.” I was too deep in the weeds of life to be mindful of my time with them.

That all changed after the divorce. At that moment fatherhood became all about intentionality. When it became clear I wouldn’t see my sons tomorrow, put them to bed every night, walk in to their room while they were sleeping and listen reassuringly to their breathing, when my time with them was limited.. I turned to intentionality.   That is what it took for me to become an intentional father. When I realized stuff didn’t just happen unless you made it happen, I planned, I scheduled, I was there and I savored every moment.

Now I look at these young men, 26 and 22 years old and I’m thankful that I was slapped in the face. I’m thankful that I lived an intentional life with them. My relationship with my sons is unusually close today. It shouldn’t take a divorce to unscrew-up one’s priorities.

Now I’m not recommending divorce. I’m recommending a cold-water-splash-in-the-face, wake-up call. Be intentional and mindful of your life with your children. Don’t wake up when they’ve left the house to live their lives and ask yourself, “where did the time go?”

Intentionality? Where else are you living an unintentional life?

It is not uncommon for leaders to take their teams for granted. To forget the value of giving time, of showing interest and engaging.

Unintentional leaders get the culture they deserve. Leaders are constantly being watched, judged, evaluated by the team. Model the behavior that shows a high-level of engagement. Give your people the time they deserve. Talk with your people. Not at them. Don’t undercut your level of trust, engagement and dedication. Schedule walking around time. And don’t fake it because if you’re faking it, you’re not a leader, you’re a pretender.

Intentionality for leaders is all about intentionally being present and setting an intentional example of trusted leadership. Leaders get the culture they tolerate and deserve. Intentional leaders drive a culture of high performance.

… is there anywhere else intentionality matters?

  1. With our spouse, partner, significant other, or spousal-equivalent (did I miss anyone?). Turn off the radio, put away the phone, talk, BE, Enjoy.
  2. Your Friends
  3. Yourself

Be intentional. Live a life of intentionality.

If you are interested in intentionality, get yourself an accountability partner. Someone who will drag you out of the weeds of the business on a regular basis to be more intentional… for your business, for you family and for your life.

Want to be more intentional? Make an appointment with a coach who will challenge you and hold you accountable to that end. Press the button to schedule a complimentary, no commitment, online coaching session with me. Let’s chat. I may be able to help you.